As I sit here, with Harvey hooked up to his food pump I can’t help but think about everything we have gone through with his feeding…
Before Harvey was born I had planned on being an extended breast feeder, not because I think that formula is “bad” it’s just knowing Harvey would be kept in an incubator at the start of his life, I longed for the bond that breastfeeding creates. Harvey however had other plans.
For the first two weeks of his life Harvey was fed by an NG tube (nasogastric- tube up his nose and down in to his belly). While he was being fed this way I was using a breast pump every three hours to keep my supply up and to give him in his tube. It was tiring work but I loved knowing I was providing him with his food, and I still credit breast milk to how fast he recovered from his surgery!
When it came time to wean him off the tube I was so nervous, but also extremely excited. He instantly latched and showed no signs of any issues. I was breastfeeding whenever I was given the option by the nurses and in the mean time Harvey was still getting the majority of his food from the tube. Then a day came where they stopped the food pump and allowed me feed on demand. I was so happy! It went so well and he seemed so content, but the next day didn’t go as well. He would be feeding well over an hour and as soon as I put him down he would scream for more. I knew it was hunger by the way he would relatch when given the chance. The worst thing I probably did was I started giving him a top up with a bottle of the milk I pumped. I just needed to know he would be full enough to sleep so I could leave him to get food.
It went on like this until we got home and I thought nothing of it. When we got home I was breastfeeding on demand, it was exhausting but I loved it. Being home with my baby and being able to really bond. I was still having to give a top up with a bottle or he literally would have spent 24 hours a day feeding, sometimes he would only need 10mls, other times he would take a lot more.
I eventually ran out of all the milk that I brought home from the hospital, I still had my rented pump so I started pumping again. To my shock I was only producing maybe 30mls in total after doing both sides. I couldn’t understand why my supply was so low but I figured that explained why he was always hungry when I would stop feeding.
I have since discovered he has an upper lip tie, and even on the bottle his top lip doesn’t latch around the teat properly. Any medical person I have said this to has dismissed it, but I know that was the problem.
I tried everything to get my milk supply back; pumping every chance I got, power pumping, taking domperidone, baked and devoured lactation cookies, I took fenugreek, drank lactation tea, skin to skin, hand expressed when done at the pump etc but nothing worked. I was only producing enough for 1 bottle a day, so I went to visit my gp. I was told that I was stressing myself out and I should just stop altogether. I wanted to burst out and cry right then and there. I didn’t know what to do. I just really enjoyed the closeness breastfeeding gave me and hated the idea that would be going, even to this day I think about trying to relactate and get my supply back but I know realistically it won’t work.
I cried the first time I gave Harvey formula. Full on cried. I almost felt like I was failing him. Had I known what was in store for us down the line I would have relished the fact that he was guzzling his milk, no matter what kind of milk it was!
I started him on aptamil, not for any particular reason, just seemed ok. He was doing great for a while, I even googled “is it ok to let a six week old drink six ounce bottles?” Of course it is, you feed a baby as much as they want.
Then the reflux set in at about 8-9 weeks. He would scream through his bottles and flat out refuse to drink for me. I was so stressed I would often find myself in floods of tears just willing him to drink. When he was 11 weeks he went in to hospital for a bilateral hernia repair in his groin, while there I spoke to the nurses about his reflux and they gave me gaviscon for him. Only a few days later I went and got his prescribed medication to neutralize the stomach acid so he would be in less pain. This helped a little. But then we noticed blood in his stool. We discovered that often means there is a cows milk protein intolerance, so I went back to the gp and asked for a specialist formula. She gave us a prescription for Nutramigen Lipil, this isn’t completely dairy free but the milk protein is extensively hydrolyzed meaning it is easily absorbed so for babies who are just sensitive to milk protein it is usually tolerated. Oh, but it tastes disgusting!
After three weeks of him refusing to drink it I gave in. I wanted to know was taste the issue so I gave him his regular aptamill again and he downed it! So I figured we would leave him on it unless bad symptoms came back. They did. So we had someone recommend trying a lactose free formula, this seemed to do the job! He was loving it and doing really well, until the blood came back.
We were a bit concerned because we thought he may have an infection so brought him to A&E. The doctor there agreed it sounded like CMPI (cows milk protein intolerance) and gave me a prescription for nutramigen puramino, this is a completely milk free formula made with Amino Acids.
He had only started this formula a few days previous to his first dietician appointment, with the public dietician. He was referred by the PHN because his growth was slowing. She put him on infantrini peptisorb, this is a high calorie feed but it’s only hydrolyzed milk protein. He seemed to tolerate it well and liked it better than the nutramigen puramino so we did a full swap. For a while he seemed like he was thriving.
He still had the odd vomit so we started adding a thickener to his feed, little did we know that thickener would end up being the reason he was getting sick!
At six months we introduced spoon feeds, I had wanted to do baby led weaning but because of his neck problem and he doesn’t have a specialist high chair yet to seat him safely so we had to go for puree. He loved it, I would let him feed himself with the spoon at the start so he could enjoy it. Time went by and his spoon feeds never really increased, he would often gag to the point he would get sick so I had to watch him closely and stop when he wanted me to.
It went on like this for a while, and then about two months ago Harvey’s feeding started to decline. Over the space of a week his bottles went from 22oz, to 18, to 15, to 12, and then he was refusing almost everything. It was very hot at the time and I was very concerned about dehydration. We had an appointment with his dietician in his early intervention centre and she weighed him to find he had lost weight.
I brought him to A&E the next day and was sent home because he wasn’t bad enough to admit but I was told to start aptamil pepti because we thought maybe the taste of the infantrini was the issue, I was told to update his paediatrician that Friday. With no signs of improvement on the new formula I told his paediatrician I wanted him admitted because I was worried. They brought him in and we were trained on how to pass an NG tube and then he was sent home, we were none the wiser to why he wasn’t eating.
He has been put back on medication for reflux at my suggestion in case he is having silent reflux. He has always had eczema, and has been waking screaming in pain at night so I asked to start giving the formula Neocate, this is completely dairy free. I am really hoping this will work because if not they want to look at doing surgery to put a PEG in, this is basically a valve in the stomach to use for feeding rather than the tube in the nose.
He is still reliant on the tube for feeding but I am hopeful that after a couple weeks on the neocate he should improve. If not I really don’t know what we can do…
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